Sunday Newscape Magazine

Life in the Fast Lane: There are some extremely beautiful men and women who know how beautiful they are because everyday several people compliment them. Some of these very beautiful people are so self-centered that they don’t care about anyone else except themselves. They’re often spoiled too because most everyone caves in easily to their wants and no one ever tells them “no”, the end result is that they go through life expecting everyone to cater to them at all times.

When you are involved with a man or woman who is deeply in love with himself/herself, you should know that you will always be in second place because they love themselves much more than they could ever love you. They may treat you as if your job is to cater to his/her every whim.   This is problem does not go away by itself. It doesn’t matter what you do or how many times you prove your love, you could rescue him/her from a life threatening situation, a building on fire, a sinking ship or a car about to explode and you will still remain in second place.

On one level, if you have a lover/spouse that is far more beautiful than you, some of your friends will be in awe and wish they were you. This might feed your ego but it is not real love.

So, the big question is would you rather live with or be married to someone who is very beautiful and puts you in second place or would you rather have someone a bit less beautiful who loves and adores you and will do anything to make you happy?

This is simply a little food for thought.

So if you know in your heart that the person you are involved with will never truly love you in the way you need to feel loved, what do you do? The answer is “emotional manipulation”. If you’re involved with someone who is far more beautiful than you and you know that your spouse loves himself/herself more than they could ever love you, then you must tap into his/her biggest fear, and that is how you can control him/her. People who are vain are easily to control once you discover their biggest fears, that is their weakness; it is how you get a grip on him/her.

It is up to you to figure that out. This way, whenever your spouse’s ego is getting out of hand, make sure to mention that thing that he/she fears the most but you must mention in a clever way so that it haunts him/her but he/she doesn’t get angry with you for bringing it up. If anything you should present it as something you want to help him/her overcome.  Sometimes in life, you can get away with saying anything if you know how to do it in a clever way.

Very beautiful people, with big egos, often become full of vanity and vanity is fertile ground for giving rise to an emotional unbalance. It is not hard to plant those seeds. Have you ever noticed how many vain people make fear driven decisions? Remember… people who are self-center, vain or shallow are easily controlled if you can skillfully manipulate their fears. That is their ‘Achilles Heal’.

I know that all this may sound a little evil, even slightly demonic but haven’t you heard it said that all is fair in love and war? So, if you’re in love with someone who is very beautiful and he/she loves himself/herself more than he/she could ever love you, the only way to gain any sense of self respect for yourself is to manipulate that person. You must get emotional control of him/her otherwise he/she will use you like a doormat. Then again, there are specific types of people who deserve to end up with each other such as the truly vain and sinister manipulators. In most cases, the only benefit you’ll receive from being involved with the wrong type of person is that most likely you will end up learning a painful lesson. So after it is all over, you will have the clarity of mind to go find someone who will love you for all the right reasons. Should you need a second hard life lesson, go get involved with someone who is very beautiful and just as crazy. That too will open your eyes to a whole new reality.

If you know anyone who is in a relationship with someone who is very beautiful and self-centered, cut out this column and send it to him/her or hang it on a wall where it will be seen. Then give yourself ten points for making the world a better place. As always, I welcome your comments. You may write to me at This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it