Sunday Newscape Magazine

At every phase of our lives there are cultural, family, religious and peer group pressures telling you that you’re suppose to be a “certain type of guy”.   Why is it that many of those around you seem to know what you should be doing with your life? Do they know better than you do? When you’re a child there are people who will tell you what you should be when you grow up. As a young man in your late twenties, your mother might start asking when you’re going to find a “nice girl” get married, start a family and make her happy. 

When it comes to women, some guys are looking for true love because they want to live happily ever after. There are other guys who seek a woman for companionship because they are tired of being lonely and just about any woman will do. Other guys want a woman who is smart so they can connect with her intellectually. The more primitive type guys are simply looking for the most exciting sexual partner possible and once they find her, they marry her because they believe if the sex is always thrilling, everything else is just a minor matter. Then, there are those guys who are looking for a woman that will complete them. A woman who has the qualities that he lacks and then together they will become one great team in the business world, the arts or politics.

As a guy who is now past fifty years of age and was married for less than two years,

I’ve spent more than thirty years, of my adult life being single and dating all types of women. I have plenty of experience with women when it comes to sex and matters of the heart. I’ve also evolved from one being one type of guy into another.

Now, I’m going to share with you some things that you Dad or Mom probably didn’t tell you. For most guys, from the age of eighteen on, they’re so horny and that sex is what they think about many times a day. At that age, just about every woman feels great in bed. Those guys who seldom get laid often marry the first woman that gives them a little bit. After you’ve been with numerous women sexually, you start to figure out that you don’t need any woman to complete you.  It is your job to know yourself and set your own path in life, you don’t need a woman to guide you or tell you what is best for you. Only weak minded men allow a woman to tell them what to do. Now, if you’re married to a smart woman and you both work as a team, trying to bring out the best in each other, that is a completely different situation and it is a good thing.

As men grow older in life, once you hit thirty, then forty and beyond, you will come to know yourself even better. You will realize that the best time of woman to have in your life is a woman who will do everything possible to make you happy. A woman who does not nag you or blame you for her problems is a good woman to have. Once a man is past a specific age, he is not looking for love anymore, that quest is mainly for young men. The majority of middle-age guys are looking for great sex because that is what keeps them young in mind, body and spirit.

There are too many obligations that come along with “true love” or being in love.   When she is not happy, she will hit you with plenty of guilt. No middle age man or older, needs to go through all that again. There comes a point in a man’s life when he is simply tired of dealing with women when they are not happy. He simply wants a woman that is there to please him and provide him with some hot monkey love at night.

I believe that many middle-age men would be much happier if they divorced their wives after the children are all grown and they have moved out. Some women, after they pass the age of forty, once they’ve lost most of their physical beauty, they become hard to live with and many don’t make a real effort to satisfy their man as they once did. What is the point of dealing with too much crap with very little payoff? You’re much better off getting divorced, getting back into the single’s life and banging a different woman every week because there are few things so wonderful as the first time you score with a new woman. First time thrills are the best. Maybe men and women are not supposed to grow old together? It seems to me that many older women prefer the company of other women than being around a man. Could it be that humanity has gotten it all wrong for several thousand years? I believe there is much that humanity has gotten wrong since the beginning. Maybe its because those make the rules simply want to control the rest of us?

So at every age of life, it is very important to know the type of guy you are and keep evolving. What made you happy twenty years ago may now bore you. At the age of twenty, you use to love working on motorcycles and getting your hands greasy. Now twenty years later, you’d rather spend your Friday nights with your hands all over a hot babe who is half your age. So, listen to your inner truth and always do what is right for you, once you’ve taken care of your obligations. You must never settle for less, You must never try to fool yourself, if you do, you’ll end up holding a bag of crap in the end.

Happiness is not about arriving at one specific point. There is much happiness to be found on the journey to where you want to end up. You must make the most out of each day; you must make the most out of each minute because every moment of life is a gift from God. God wants to you to live a productive, happy and thrilling life. I doubt if any man is going to end up in Hell because he is forty and he is having sex with a twenty-two year old “hottie” who is happy to do all those things sexually his ex-wife would never do to please him.

To avoid sadness, anger and depression you must get in touch with “the real you”. There are men are sitting in prisons all over the world because they did something stupid during a moment of anger. You should always be living the life that makes you happy because you don’t want to end up being an angry man who is on the verge of doing something stupid. If others don’t approve of how you live your life, then that is their problem and not yours. So once you find “the real you”, go buy a fun car and find yourself a “hot babe” because that is the way an enlightened man travels on the road to happiness.

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