Sunday Newscape Magazine

During my life, I’ve known many unhappy people who felt that way because they were getting up in years and they had never met their soul mate, the love of their life. Speaking about my own life, I’ve been with about three hundred women and there were three or four women that would have been the ideal wife for me if I had married any one of them. While I was involved with these women, my focus was on other things and I didn’t realize how wonderful they were until gone from my life. It was my fault that these relationships fell apart.

Based on all my romantic experiences with women, I figured out a long time ago that the feeling of “being in love” is an emotional experience. When you are “in love”, you are happy, everyday is wonderful etc. These are feelings trigged by your emotions and emotions can easily be fooled. So, if you’re having a one-night stand or you’re involved in a short-term relationship, go ahead and tell yourself that you’re “in love”. Even if you’re not in love, it is okay to fool your emotions because they will generate some very satisfying feelings. Now, when it all over, you might feel a sense of loss because when one comes down from a high, hitting a low is what usually follows. This is no big deal, just go out and find another lover for the night and trick your emotions into believing that you’re “in love” all over again.

It is much better to feel as in you’re “in love” a few times a month that to go through life in a negative state of mind, feeling partially numb because you never found your soul mate. You know that feeling when you go to an amusement park, you take a ride on a thrilling roller-coaster and when it comes to an end, you want to get back on again?

Falling in love, in short spurts, is much the same thing. Sure you might feel a little down once the thrill is gone but you can always go back out there and find another partner to have more fun with.

On the flip side… I know that for many people, when they get married, the first two years are very exciting, then once the honeymoon is over, after they have a child or two, they usually realize that both of them have to “work at it” to keep the passion alive within their marriage. So, if you alone in the world, don’t allow yourself to start feeling sad for yourself when you see so many married couples all over the place who seem to be so happy. Chances are that many of them are not as happy as you are because at least you have “freedom”, there is no one holding back from going out tonight and trying to find a new lover. They’re stuck home with the person they married and no longer love. Once the magic is gone and you’re still with the person you married, feeling trapped is a horrible way to exist.

To enjoy all the good thrills that life has to offer, you must learn how to enjoy the passion of the “here and now”. Don’t focus on what you don’t have or what isn’t happening. If you meet someone on-line or in a single’s bar and you end up in bed with him/her on a Saturday night, be grateful and pretend you’re in love. Go ahead fool your emotions that way, you will get the most out of that encounter. You should always try to make the most out of the “here and now”.

When you’re with an exciting lover, late at night, enjoying hot monkey love, don’t start worrying tomorrow, which could be better or worse. When you’re lying down with a sexy lover, nothing else matters. So, don’t allow your mind to think about anything else. You should make love tonight as if the world is going to end tomorrow.

Because emotions are not based in logic, people who respond to their emotions without thinking things through often up end with bigger problems. If you can outsmart your emotions, you will enjoy the feelings they generate without any “down side”. You must always be the master of your mind and body. It is your domain. So, use the power of your mind, to cast out any negative feelings and doubts when you’re out having fun.

To be happy in life, you should always follow your heart, chase your dreams with every bit of your strength, dance like no one is watching and make love like a warrior and never take advice from a bitter person. If you’ve been lonely and you haven’t had a thrilling sexual experience in a while. What are you waiting for? Get busy, go out there and find someone to share the magic of the night with.

If you know anyone who is missing out on the passion of the ‘here and now’, if you know someone who needs a little emotional wake up call, cut out this column and send it to him/her or hang it on a wall where it will be seen. As always, I welcome your comments. You may write to me at This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it